#6 Surprise divorce
I didn’t even know I was getting a divorce. I received the divorce papers in the mail.
My ex was in the Navy at the time about to retire. Her last duty station was in Michigan. We had been in the DC area for about 12 years before the last transfer came. So I stayed in DC as our home was almost paid off and after 3 years she would be back to settle here for good. We had been together for about 10 years before we got married.
About 3 months before her retirement, I get the papers from the State of Michigan — in 30 days you’re divorced. Apparently, she talked to a JAG officer about her retirement and he suggested she divorce me so she wouldn’t have to split her retirement check with me.
I paid all the bills at the DC house and most of the ones at the Michigan house. I didn’t want to fight so we got divorced. I did keep all of my stuff, house, car, motorcycle. And she didn’t ask for any of my business.
About 4 months later I get a call from her. “Ummm I don’t seem to have enough money to pay my bills…” I told her not my problem. It felt really good.
Four years later, I still get a call every now and then of her telling me she misses me and loves me and she can’t pay her bills. I love when she asks me for money. I know it’s petty, but it feels so good to say no.