#21 Love, Service, and Toxicity
I was married to a self-centered man/child who saw me as his maid in every way. I put up with it for years and tried to improve the marriage with couples counseling, so many different therapies for couples counseling till I found one he was willing to listen to. I tried and tried, and was the only one putting in any work.
I had to go on antidepressants. When this happens you need someone to ‘spot’ you as the doctors told me that antidepressants increase the chance of suicide. My husband couldn’t even be bothered to do that. He couldn’t check in on his wife, living in the same house, caring for his children in case she was suicidal.
The only person willing to do that was a close friend of both of us who actually cared. He would regularly talk with me through my stuff with my family while we gamed. He was my sanity. He was the dear sweet man who I have lived with now for longer than the marriage relationship. He is a wonderful caring human who treats me as an equal. —coldandwet