#30 Straight-up duplicity
I had a mother who tortured her 6 and 7-year-old daughters, who beat them for everything under the sun, who ignored their medical needs and lied/gaslit them about their medical issues, who told her children lies about their biological father and stole from them.
However, the person my friends saw was an enviable, strong, caring, supportive, awesome, friendly, warm mother they all wished they could have instead of their own mothers.
When she remarried to a man with his own children my mother acted like a best friend to his eldest daughter including being there for her medical needs and giving generously. She became the mom all the friends went to in order to get medical help and my mother skipped my 8th-grade graduation / early HS admission in order to “fight” for my drug dealing step sister’s legal woes. (Step sister was busted selling drugs to high schoolers)
She was a completely different mother/person if you weren’t her actual child. —nonymous_opinions